Music playing and opening on its own

When I take my AirPods out or put them in Apple Music just automatically starts playing. If I close it, it re opens the second I take my AirPod out and starts auto playing. Everything I’ve tried doesn’t work, it’s just so annoying. And the funny thing is that it used to auto open when I connected Apple car play, which was fine cause yk, when I’m driving I like music. But now? only my AirPods. I have to manually open music on car play, but my AirPods? If I even LOOK at them the wrong way, and even if Apple Music is closed and not open AT ALL, even swiping up to the list of open apps and it not being there, music will just auto open and start playing. Every discussion I’ve seen before is just the same thing “turn off auto ear detection” which doesn’t do anything but make it to where it’ll play even more. Honestly it seems like yall have got it to where Apple Music starts when you’re not looking at your phone to boost playtime or whatever, which is SUPER scummy. Like those ads with the fake X in the corner, I expected better from Apple. But ig not.