Any suggestion we can offer is going to be a bandaid solution. Sure you can restore your iPhone and reduce System Data, but it will grow over time. And you can certainly update your iPhone using your computer. But nothing you do will compensate for owning an iPhone with only 64GB of storage to begin with.
One of the MOST overlooked items when people buy an iPhone is storage. Once purchased, the storage on iPhone is fixed at purchase. And in today's world, 64GB is simply not enough. Today, Apple sells the newest model iPhones starting with 256GB of storage, which is 4 times more storage than your iPhone came with. And even that, in my opinion isn't enough, which is why for the last couple years, my new iPhones have been purchased with 512GB.
You really need to give serious consideration to upgrading to a new iPhone, and this time buy the most storage you can afford. Our storage needs will only grow as more features are added. No one has EVER come to this forum and complained they have too much storage. But daily, we see people come here looking for solutions because they don't have enough, like in your situation.