Thanks - all though maybe I wasn’t clear.
If I do what you’ve proposed this would give her access to my own email as well as the other domain we also share?
I have two custom domains on my iCloud.
Only the one I want to give her access too - however it appears that iCloud+ custom domains does not split the domains when you have multiples registered on your account they all just land in the same mailbox without being filtered on iOS mail client which is a bit of a failing.
That said I could be doing this wrong of course but I find it hard to believe that this cannot be done.